The Ultimate Guide to Choosing Your First Dance Song
The Ultimate Guide to Choosing Your First Dance Song
As a Maryland based wedding musician of 15 years, I've had the pleasure of helping dozens of couples choose songs for their ceremony, reception, and first dance. Your first dance as a married couple is one of the most magical moments of your wedding day. It’s the time when all eyes are on you while you share an intimate, love-filled moment on the dance floor. Perfecting this moment starts with choosing the right song. But with so many options available, how do you decide on the one?
This guide will help you unravel the mystery of selecting your ultimate first dance tune, offering practical tips, popular recommendations, and ways to make it uniquely yours. This guide can also apply to selecting your ceremony songs.
1. Consider Personal Significance
Before you even think about genres or tempos, ask yourselves this question: What songs mean the most to us as a couple? The best first dance songs often hold special meaning for the bride and groom. It could be the song playing during your first date, the one that was on the radio during a meaningful road trip, or the tune you always find yourselves singing together.
Your first dance song doesn’t have to be straight out of a romance movie. It just needs to resonate with you and your love story.
Example Question to Ask Yourselves:
Does this song remind us of a memorable moment?
Are there any artists we both absolutely adore?
For example, if you bonded over your mutual love of Ed Sheeran, his songs like “Perfect” or “Thinking Out Loud” might be worth considering.
2. Pay Attention to Lyrics
Lyrics can make or break a song’s suitability for a first dance. Even if the melody is gorgeous, take a close look at the storyline within the song. Is it romantic? Does it reflect your hopes and promises for one another?
At the same time, remember that not all love songs are suitable. For example, “I Will Always Love You” by Whitney Houston is a stunning classic, but it’s about saying goodbye rather than celebrating togetherness. Choose a song that communicates the emotions you want to share with your partner and guests during your wedding day.
A Few Timeless Songs with Meaningful Lyrics:
“At Last” by Etta James
“Can’t Help Falling in Love” by Elvis Presley
“You Are the Best Thing” by Ray LaMontagne
“All of Me” by John Legend
3. Think About Tempo and Danceability
Your first dance should feel effortless, not stressful. When selecting your song, think about how easy it will be to move to it. A slow or mid-tempo track works best for couples who want a relaxed, traditional dance.
On the other hand, if you’re planning to wow your guests with choreography or a fun, lively performance, you might choose something more upbeat. For example, “You Make My Dreams Come True” by Hall & Oates or “Shut Up and Dance” by Walk the Moon are energetic options that get everyone smiling. If you’re not sure how you’ll move to your song, play it at home and try swaying, spinning, or rehearsing a simple dance to see how it feels.
4. Match the Genre to Your Personal Style
Your wedding is a reflection of your personalities, and your first dance song is no exception. Whether you’re lovers of country, jazz, rock, or pop, your song choice should reflect your shared musical interests.
Here are some suggestions based on genre:
Pop: “A Thousand Years” by Christina Perri
Classic Rock: “I Want to Hold Your Hand” by The Beatles
Country: “From the Ground Up” by Dan + Shay
Soul/R&B: “By Your Side” by Sade
Jazz: “Moon River” by Henry Mancini (from Breakfast at Tiffany’s)
The genre doesn’t have to match the rest of your wedding music. Instead, focus on what makes you feel at home.
5. Make It Unique to Your Story
While some couples want a tried-and-true classic, others prefer to be more unconventional. If popular songs don’t feel personal enough, here are some ways to make your first dance truly unique:
Look for Covers: Sometimes a stripped-down acoustic cover or a piano version of a well-known song can create a fresh and magical vibe. For instance, a slowed-down version of “Can’t Take My Eyes Off You” can completely transform its energy!
Choose a Hidden Gem: Search for lesser-known songs by your favorite artists to find a track more unique to you.
Write Your Own Love Story: If one of you has a flair for music, consider writing and recording a custom song for the first dance. Or, have a live band personalize the arrangement.
6. Practice Makes Perfect
Once you’ve chosen your song, practice dancing to it. Whether you’re swaying naturally or taking lessons to perfect your moves, feeling comfortable will make your dance all the more special.
Pro tip: Communicate with your DJ, band, or whoever is in charge of the music. Ensure they've the correct version of the song, and discuss any special requests, like a fade-out or a tempo adjustment.
7. Don’t Overthink It
It’s easy to get caught up in perfection. Remember, your first dance isn’t about impressing the guests or choosing the “trendiest” song. It’s a deeply personal moment between you and your partner. The love and joy you radiate will make the moment magical, regardless of your choice.
Closing Thoughts
Choosing your first dance song is an opportunity to celebrate your unique bond as a couple. By focusing on personal meaning, meaningful lyrics, and danceability, you’ll find the song that perfectly sums up your love story.
Whether you ultimately opt for a classic ballad, a fun modern bop, or even a quirky favorite that only the two of you understand, your first dance will be an unforgettable moment that you’ll cherish forever.
Now, grab your partner, cue up some music, and start dancing!
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